You are starting to recognize your conclusions and interpretations of every little thing......but you still have a long way to go.
The picture thing........why did you need to say anything at all.
I hope you realize that was a mistake.........it sparked a fear in you and you reacted........and then you were worried about it.
This behavior has to stop ASAP, you are practically pushing her out the door yourself.
It is good that she sat with you at the soccer game......now you need to have 99 other interactions like that before anything else can happen.......sound like alot......GOOD, because that is how long it is going to take.
Your EXPECTATIONS and your FEAR are Driving YOU......
They have a death grip on you......
Look she is still in the house and you are sleeping in the same bed........it is good in fact it is great if you read other sitches.........the problem is that you are not detached.
Unfortunately most LBS's have to absolute push their WAS out the door and be separated before they can start to look at themselves because they cannot handle the proximity to their spouse while they are like this.
Think of your wife as a friend/roommate for now and when I say for now, I mean for a long time.....maybe 6 months to a year.
You need to detach from her and focus on you.
I have not read that book but it sounds like you are saying that you need to listen better.
Make sure you are wanting to be a better listener for YOU not to make you marriage better.
Make sense???
Hope this helps.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
