A WAS often temp checks the LBS... to make sure they are "doing all right"... it can help them feel good about their choice, allay their guilt, knowing the LBS is ok...
I would not recommend telling her that you're NOT doing ok...
rather... it might be interesting to see what would happen if you were a little more mysterious... distant... unavailable...
that's were GALing come in. If there's specific times she's calling... or if she's texting you... just let her know that "oh, hey... sorry, kinda busy I'm on my way out the door or I'm out right now... can't chat"
See if she becomes curious...
What you are looking for, in a lot of this stuff is, is the WAS moving away, not moving, or moving towards the LBS...
If moving towards, keep doing what you're doing, it's working...
either of the others, stop doing it and try something different...
What 180s have you had a chance to try... what are some "more of the same" behaviours for you that your W has noted she doesn't like?
