My post you quoted was not meant to be a dig on you. It was to clarify that I felt some of the other posts may have been misinterpreted.
Based on your last update. I think you are doing well man.
We may disagree on the issue of OW. But that is not THE issue here.
Keep at it. Good to find your 'mojo.'. Regardless of it's source.
I know CS. I don't take any of the posts as 'digs'. I know that everyone is just trying to help me.
UPDATE...
W initiated text convo with me again today (Friday)... I'm going to edit much of it bc it is non-R talk... but fact that she contacted me is probably important.
W: "I sang at the yyyy wedding last weekend. They are from Pueblo and knew your family." (Pueblo is my hometown)
Me: "hmmm... the last name doesn't sound familiar."
W: "Sorry. Their last name was xxxx. Spoke to one of their dads. They are younger than us though."
Me: "Still doesn't sound familiar."
W: "hmmm the dad knew your family and Mike's. Knew about JJ too" (JJ was a friend of mine who died in car accident in July)
W: "They had italian cookies from Pueblo. That's how the conversation started." (W and I had italian cookies from pueblo at our wedding).
I did not reply to her last 2 text messages.
That's it.
Denver
Denver,
These are not about your kids, nor are they urgent. Why are you responding to them? I thought you were going dark, or at least dim?
And then -- to top it off -- you IGNORE the last few?
I'm afraid this is nothing but the EXACT SAME passive-aggressive behavior from you, and what several people were alluding to earlier about your texts with your wife.
Starsky
I believe I see this much like Starsky. I also see a pretty consistent thread running through the advice you've been receiving on this issue, Denver.
It seems to me most people agree with some version of 'I need some space, please let's limit contact to finances and kids' or, alternatively, and what I hear 25 saying, if she's going to contact you reasonably even if it's just to take your temperature, you have an opportunity to demonstrate some loving detachment and wind up the exchange with a quick 'Take care' that lets her know you intend to be polite and considerate but you're ending the conversation.
I think either approach would be preferable to responding and then just checking out. Seems a bit rude to me. I do know how challenging it is to walk the fine line though and it's just my opinion.
