Tad, the answer to your question is no. It doesnt shut the door to anything else in the future.
She sees you as the reason she is unhappy. Your job is to give her the space and time to figure out (is she chooses to) that it is her.
Personally, I didnt want to be friends with my h while he was doing all this stuff to me. Not my idea of a friend. And I knew that he had a path to walk and needed to get out of the way.
It's normal for the LBS to feel that if you dont stay connected in some way, then she will move on and not look back.
But really, she needs to figure it all out on her own.
That's not to say that if you do occasionally run into her, you shouldnt smile, be positive and confident and leave her thinking.
She needs to see that you have made changes and to see if they are real. And trust me, even is she isnt in contact with you, if she wants to know about you, she will figure out a way to find out.
If you keep engaging with her, you dont give her a chance to.
You did wonderfully at lunch. The exact things that you didnt do allowed her to see you in a different light.
I agree with Seeking, the manic part is settling down.
Tad, you really need to stop analyzing her and every interaction. The sooner you detach, the better off you'll be. And it allows her to deal with the choices she made on her own.
I also dont think you should go to lunch again. Thank her and get on with your day.
Time to start setting some goals, making some plans.
