ok... so I'm trying to use this thread for only summary and questions that I'm looking for more immediate responses...
right now, synopsis is:
+ I'm feeling pretty good...
and
+ and not really feel down...
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Where I am at... what's the plan?
+ start paving the road home...
+ stop aggressively pursuing D...
+ work with W on a more regular basis to arrange more... acceptable co-parenting and visits...
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I'm very confident in my emotional state atm. Yes, I've had a couple of pity parties, but not specifically around my W. More around missing my kids... Anything that has to do with OM or her "secret life", I have pretty much no emotional reaction.
I am going to change my boundary from dark to dim...
I am not prepared yet to do "group/family events" together, we'll see what the holidays bring...
I had been up and down on the D thing... but now... I'm OK with not doing the paperwork. It could be harmful to the kids. Unless my W wants it, then she can have it...
