remember... dark is FOR YOU... so that you can get off her roller coaster... ie. protect your emotional well being.
It is not one of those things you have to keep doing, once you finally have the constitution to stay off her roller coaster, in her presence or in communication.
IF you are calm... then leave dark... go to dim...
She will notice the change from dark to N/C...
Question is... unless it's FOR YOU...
will it help...
will it harm...
or will it have no effect...
You don't know unless you try... but remember... if what we are doing IS NOT WORKING... stop doing it and try something else...
