Nine, I am moved by your W's note. I hope it brings you some measure of peace. I am sitting with my D14, having a daddy/daughter date, and I can tell you a tear came to my eye when I read your post.
My D14 asked me what wrong and I just told her that I was feeling sad and happy for someone I have never met. I am happy you got to hear those words from her and so very sorry that she is gone.
I think that the candles that burn the brightest tend to burn themselves out quicker than others.
May the grace of God shine down upon you and your boys.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.