Have you noticed yet, Tad about the back and forth? Have you noticed the others that chime in with "me too!" ? I ask that as a way to get you to be protective of something very valuable - you. Up until recently, your self-esteem was so low that you didn't protect you and it didn't go well.

Your w is a nut. You are radioactive to her, but I agree with the others she likely wants to feel good about herself and if she can remain "friends" with you then everyone got what they wanted. Only after talking to her your head spins. I'm not saying don't be friends or don't be friendly. I'm saying protect you. That's setting a boundary and enforcing it and that is important. She'll change back and forth to get what she wants from you. You should have noticed that by now.

Something that stood out to me the other day - someone mentioned that she needs you to fuel the anger. Don't let her fan that fire with you as fuel. Let it smother. Let the fire die down on it's own. But she will try again Tad. She'll bring you in close, act like it was once before, and a trigger will flip in her brain and you'll feel the knife as it comes out the front.

Don't shy away Tad. But protect your boundaries and yourself. Be watchful and wary. Be careful. Understand that there are many sides you don't see and that she is not thinking like the person you once knew. Anything is possible and it's likely going to be aimed and controlling you and ultimately hurting you.

That said, weekend's coming. What're the big plans? smile

AJ


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK
Put the glass down...
"Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."