Do you feel as if the natural supplements are as effective as the prescribed ADs?
You believe that when you started to assert yourself your M went downhill because H likes clingy needy women? Are you trying to save your M by acting that way again?
My H is also a workaholic, always has been. I married him knowing that and although there were times that I was lonely I accepted him for what he was. I learned early on that my happiness wasn't dependent on my H, it came from me.
Listen, when our H's walked out the door our M's were dead. That doesn't mean that a new M can't be built with your H at some point if that's what you both want. It's just not going to happen at this point.
Right now you have to deal with the situation at hand. You have to dig down and find your survival instincts and strength to do what you have to do to protect yourself and S. No one else is going to.
Will your H get mad if you file? Probably, especially if he feels entitled to it all. If he's going through money you may actually be protecting him too by filing. There are stories on these boards where the LBS has lost everything and was responsible for 1/2 the huge debt her XH racked up unbeknownst to her.
So do something while you can. Don't let your fear paralyze you to the point of having something even more to fear down the road. Your H is selfish right now and isn't thinking about you. Think about yourself, especially for your son.
