You are trying to TELL her... words she's unlikely to hear or will deny...
If you have been integral around her... if you have set boundaries for yourself... she will know... she will see and sense that... and consistent action, while she could continue to deny as WASs can...
What is happening is... you are sitting on a belief that your words... or your actions... need to be seen by your W and accepted by your W and admired by your W... so she will "come to her senses"...
she may not... ever... no matter what you say OR do...
It's tough, even if you understand the principles...
What you are doing... who you are becoming... is all that matters...
her "coming to her senses" because you are a man that only a fool would leave... that might be a pleasant side effect...
