So later i call her again in the afternoon. After some intial talk on the same subject, i said "Okay P, I am gonna ask you something. I promised myself that i would not ask this after what i had been through. I am just gonna ask this once. Do you wanna work on the marriage?. Take your time and let me know. If you yes, we will have a long way ahead of us to re-patch. But I will treat you as a woman is supposed to be treated by a mature guy. And i'll expect the same from you. If you No, thats okay too. I know what i want in my life. I'll find someone to be happy with." to which she said "I dont think i can say yes or no. I am scared of my cyclic nature of our arguments. We have lul and then we have volcanoes." I said "take your time"
THis is really good. Do not return to this topic again soon, let her meditate on it in her conscious and subconscious mind without interruption.
This is the decisive and self-controlled state I have been encouraging you to attain from the beginning. You know what you want and you put it out there for her to decide if she wants to be part of it. If not, you are not emotionally entangled enough to allow it to affect you.
Do not stray from what is working for you. This path you are going down is one that will attract women to you for life (whoever YOU choose it to be), it is not one you walk down just to repair your R, and then drift back to old habits.
Also, there is sooo much more to learn, if you are willing to keep exploring.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
