I haven't had a M since my H walked out in Oct. '09 and moved in with the ow. H filed for D in Dec '10. I retained a L and there has been no movement since. Yes, it's my H's D and since he's the one that wants it he'll have to do the heavy lifting. I did, however, take the necessary steps to protect myself and my children.
Just consulting a L to find out your rights is not the same as filing. You may find some peace of mind by doing it.
Please make sure you're done with one R and healed before entering another, otherwise you're just hauling a bunch of baggage into the next. Most healthy people can spot that a mile off and run the other way.
You are the only one that can stop yourself from feeling like a victim. Stand up, face your fears head on and live your life to the fullest.
