Walking in Muskeg - Part IV - Squishy Rubber Boots

[Queen_of_Swords]

Originally Posted By: Scylla_Charibdis
I redouble my efforts! My program pattern...if it doesn't work the first time do it over and work harder, faster, longer, more, more, more!
Posted in response by: PEIMom_of_3:
I'd also suggest that it's not just men you do this with ... go back and read some of your early threads smile

Oh I know it's not just men I do this with. It's a programmed pattern for my life. Perfectionism, persistence,work/effort being the sum of my worth.

Works when you're trying to survive as a child...doesn't work so well when you are an adult. It makes you successful in may areas but certainly not in the interpersonal arena of life.

PEIMom_of_3 wrote:

Yup, been there, done that. Understanding why is important, for me it was key to change. I had to first see the interaction patterns in my life, but then I also had to examine why I bought into them straight through into my adulthood.

I am the same. It's crucial for me to understand the why before I see what needs to be changed.