Have you at least consulted with a L to see what your rights are?

Think about it this way. If your H was seriously considering marrying the ow, don't you think he would have started the D proceedings by now?

I am not being harsh here, but how much farther gone can your H get?

MLCer's are notorious for going through money like water. Face your fears, protect your S and yourself.

Would standing up for yourself and S be a 180 for you? Proactive instead of reactive.