Pretty sure this is a MLC or Identity Crisis

[tested metal]

The reason that I have been asking all these questions and reading the resources on this forum is because I have been taught to seek first to understand, then be understood. I want to understand where my W is coming from, only then can I correct myself and my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards her and others. I am also examining closely the OM that she is "hanging out with" to see what it is that is attracting her to them. So far they have been the complete opposite of me, but I am learning that they are doing some things that I need to do in my relationship with her regardless of the outcome of the relationship. In that regards, I am working on me.

Whether she is a MLC or just plain WAW does not matter at this point. Opening my eyes and my heart, while having absolutely NO expectations matters the most. I am on my way to GAL. I no longer fear what W will do to me.

Thanks for the support and imput! It has been invaluable!