Update - so I waited until almost an hour after I thought W would be asleep to go to bed.
Got upstairs, crept in the bedroom, found W in center of bed sprawled out and my pillows on the floor. I thought for a second about trying to slip in on the very edge of the bed, but thought better of it.
Ended up sleeping on the floor next to the bed. Maybe not the smartest move physically for me, but at least we slept in the same room - it was kind of a symbolic thing for me. W had to open, got up at 4:30am - normally I get up with her...not this morning though! I waited until she left, then jumped up into bed for 90 minutes of comfort.
W and MIL are supposed to go out tonight. I'm planning to be in bed asleep before she gets home. Wouldn't surprise me if she flat out told me in advance to NOT be in our bed, not sure how I would respond to that...where's the listen and validate opportunity there?
Also - thinking about getting a card for MIL and writing an apology for two nights ago. Would like to try to end things at least on a 'not sour' note.
Me-44, W-38 S12, D10 --- EA: 3/20/11 Bomb: 3/25/11 "I'm waiting til June to 'do something'" statement from W: 4/26/11 Still in same house, in same bed