Wife no longer in love with me

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Thanks for your thoughts and comments - they do make sense. I know my W has a lot of issues, she is giving up a hell of a lot with these actions. She literally has no one in her life that loves and cares for her apart from me and my family. She has had such a difficult childhood and life, and she has family apart from an older sister that is so self absorbed she doesn't really care for her. In the 8 yrs she has been in Australia her sister has never made any effort to visit - so strange and sad. But, as you say those are her issues and problems now, not mine anymore. She has created this situation so she can live with it and the repercussions.
I never want to see her in trouble or struggling, but I know in the end I will come out of this better off than her. I have a loving family, a lot of friends, a successful career and she doesn't really have that.

You know I just wish I had found this site in February when she left. I have made so many mistakes, that I feel I have damaged the M permanently, so much that I look back on and am so ashamed of myself. Although she has done some shite stuff too. Worst being, when we were supposedly working things out, getting on well and loving, we decided to go away for Easter. I booked a luxury resort in Thailand for 5 nights so we could reconnect and get back to basics and the great things about us. She had moved home for 3 nights and was keen and excited - booking activities, saying she can't wait etc. Then the night before we leave she comes home from work and says it's over she can't go. And then had this friend of hers waiting outside to take her away, and that was it - the beginning of the end.
She has surrounded herself with two women who seem to be encouraging a lot of this. One is divorced, hates men, her husband left her with 3 kids for a younger woman. Plus she is ten yrs older than my W so I don't get the friendship.
The other is a work friend who moved to this state and left her husband. He came here 6 mths later, they are trying to sort it out, but now she is cheating on him.
Great influences for the W to surround herself with. And both these women don't really know me or us as a couple. They have latched on to her and and encouraging her decision the whole way.
I fee like she has been brainwashed! Well thats what my mum says!