Walking in Muskeg - Part IV - Squishy Rubber Boots

[PEI]

I redouble my efforts! My program pattern...if it doesn't work the first time do it over and work harder, faster, longer, more, more, more!

I'd also suggest that it's not just men you do this with ... go back and read some of your early threads

For me PEI it's not so much the sting as, OMFG I never realised I did that! So that's what you mean!, moment.

For me until that light bulb comes on, it's like; what are you talking about? I really don't "get" it and I believe they're pulling these statements out of their behinds just to criticize me unjustly.

Yeah, call it what you want, but that's basically the "sting" I meant. Basically it just means that we go "Huh, there IS truth to that!!"

Why? Well, that's happened throughout my life as a child - what I did, who I am was never good enough,( even if it was exemplary) that was reinforced over and over to me. So STBX criticisms, although accurate, played right into that huge complicated wound of mine.

Yup, been there, done that. Understanding why is important, for me it was key to change. I had to first see the interaction patterns in my life, but then I also had to examine why I bought into them straight through into my adulthood.

Keep diggin', Scylla ... you're getting there ...

Peace
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