My m would be different because i have more confidence now, i have a few friends, have tennis as a social outlet, would try to be more accepting of h music and tv choices, im going to college for my own career. Would focus more on my life and not depend on h for my happiness. i know i need to do more, but im afraid hes been with ow so long there is no hope. do you think i should file to protect son and i financially? its the only way in my state to protect me.