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Ok, definitely time to spring for new running shoes. Guess I'll head out after work tomorrow and get properly fitted. Have decided to do a "couch to 5k" sort of thing - and my crappy 5-year old Pumas are not gonna cut it.


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Having a really hard time tonight.

Have decided this night is stupid and I am going to bed.

Poo on you, this night!


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Hugs. Have a good night sleep - tomorrow is another day.


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(((Hugs))) to you. I had one of those nights myself.

I hope today is better for you.


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Feeling a little better today. Listening to a new guided meditation about "letting go" - supposed to use it every night for 3 weeks. We'll see if it helps.

Today is the first day my legs haven't hurt from treadmilling - guess that means I need to step it up a bit.


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As I mentioned, he was pretty cranky at me yesterday - not sure why, as I've basically just said, "Ok, I'm gonna get out of your way and let you pursue OW."

Today he's sent me 3 emails about our refi. Here is one string that I would like input on.

Him -
"You qualify for the refi on your own and I would be on the title until we divorce, and then I would come off when the court awarded the house to you. There is no change in payment, interest rate, or anything else.

Given that nothing changes, I think it's best to not have us entangled in this way. Please let me know if you disagree - I plan to call Wes this afternoon and tell him to change stuff around."

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"If that's easier, it's fine. Thanks for taking care of it.

I'll get the stuff from your other email taken care of today/tomorrow."

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"Thank you for the quick response. I will call him back and start that up. I should have the last of my parts today or tomorrow as well.

I checked and I did not send you a text about the daycare bill - I had started one but Riley was talking and I forgot. I'm sorry and will strive to be better at that."


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My W took me off the mortgage, but in our jurisdiction, it does not matter if I am on mortgage or on title... it's still the familial home and therefore the law states I am entitled...

IANAL, so I have no idea what works best for your sitch... I'd contact a L if necessary...

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Oh, I'm fine with him being off the mortgage, as I'm getting the house and this is a community property state so he's on the hook financially as long as we're married.

I just thought the exchange was a little odd, considering how rude he was to me yesterday.


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Well, he just friended the OW on Facebook, so I've unfriended him. I guess detachment happens one thread at a time.


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Well, he just friended the OW on Facebook, so I've unfriended him. I guess detachment happens one thread at a time.


I unfriended my H right away. I didn't want to be tempted to stalk him. Yet I continue to look at his cell phone history. I guess I need the detachment also. frown

Keep your chin up.


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