"You don't want to be with me? You don't want to love me and cherish me for who I am? Your loss. Let's get this over with and get on with our lives."
I think so many of us feel this way. There is no need to rush things at all DG, but please validate this feeling(if TM is correct in his assessment) because it is not wrong at all. The meaning behind it will change. ie "I'm p!ssed off that you aren't treating me this way" to "I am totally worth love and dont NEED validation from you. I want it, but I'll be okay if it doesn't happen".
The time when that shift happens is unknown, but when it does.. you'll know. Until then.. time is on your side.
I have to tell you friends it's been haunting me over this last couple days. More and more I feel like saying the words in blue to STBX's face. I am so fed up and ready to go looking for someone that truly WANTS me in their life. As I am, for who I am, flawed as I am, in all the ways a wife is supposed to be wanted, and isn't just putting up with me, and having minimal contact for the sake of our kids.
I don't know how much patience I have left.
That is a great post and at some point we reach it. We all deserve to be wanted, needed, and loved.
When you are not able to answer why you are still wanting to save your M then maybe it is time to re-evaluate.
