For me PEI it's not so much the sting as, OMFG I never realised I did that! So that's what you mean!, moment.
For me until that light bulb comes on, it's like; what are you talking about? I really don't "get" it and I believe they're pulling these statements out of their behinds just to criticize me unjustly.
Why? Well, that's happened throughout my life as a child - what I did, who I am was never good enough,( even if it was exemplary) that was reinforced over and over to me. So STBX criticisms, although accurate, played right into that huge complicated wound of mine.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.