this morning i get a text msg from wife, and it said that shw has been using this time away wisely and getting her sh&^ together. She cant rush this decision, and she wants to meet for coffee on monday.
What i got out of that was
She is once again missing her weekend with the kids!
since our discussion about why i have been so insistant about her fixing this with the kids and my illness, she hasnt said two words to me about it.
I believe starsky you said it best when you said that was cold.
The funny thing is, she doesnt even know that i cant drink coffee anymore.
I did respond and i told her that i didnt understand what decision she thinks i am trying to rush. The option of her coming home is off the table. all i want at this point is for her to remember that she is a mom. To start making her kids a priority.
My MIL has been home all week trying to help with the kids, as im on my second round of chemo and i am very sick and run down. I have spent most of this week in bed and doing a whole lot of nothing. She told me tonight that she texted her daughter to tell her that she needs to come and take care of her children. That i am very sick and cant do it right now. There was no response.
I gotta ask, how do you get family members to back off, to leave things alone. I know she is trying to help, but it just adds more pressure. I have told her repeatedly to not get involved. I told her the same thing tonight, and she said she cant stand to see me go through this and try to be a dad at the same time. To which i replied, I will get through this, i will do the best i can and thats all i can do.
