I just looked at this and wanted to clarify something. I said 'deliver it'
I, don't know about others, would not recommend putting together a 'speech'
IF she shows she is ready to committ to the M.
A more general description of your 'boundaries' (someone just shivered) is probable the way to start.
But THEN you need to be ready to set specifics that are necessary for you.
Yeah CS ... even with today's developments, I don't think that I am anywhere close to this.
I'm continuing going very dim. W is going to have to come to me at this point.
My goals are still the same 25. I do still want to save my M... but I will say that I'm beginning to get to the point that I can live with that not happening.
MHL... I really think that your post is wise advise, but I feel that much of what you suggest is more of the same stuff that I have been doing over the past several months. I have tried to keep the road home as smooth as f'ing possible for 9 months. That only worked in getting her back to the point where she was NOT sure that she wanted a D. It has NOT worked in bringing her full circle back to the M. The only thing that seems to work right now is distancing myself and creating concern in her mind that she may lose me for good.
Anyway... time for a good chuckle.
I present to you all... Monty Python's presentation of "Denver's 9 month DB Journey" (I am the Black Knight).
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
