Johnnie,

Like 25 said. What is being cold going to do for you?

BUT there is a balance you need to find.

Compassionate, kind and strong.

NOT

Needy puppy dog giggling stuff

The latter may seem 'happy' to you.

But it may be pursuing and weak to her.

Knowing yourself. How are the two different?

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.