I just looked at this and wanted to clarify something. I said 'deliver it'

I, don't know about others, would not recommend putting together a 'speech'

IF she shows she is ready to committ to the M.

A more general description of your 'boundaries' (someone just shivered) is probable the way to start.

But THEN you need to be ready to set specifics that are necessary for you.

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