Denver, have you thought about what you need from her for you to give the M another shot?
I have CS.
1. Clear statement of commitment and desire to work on M. 2. Some clear action showing true commitment to work on M. 3. Willingness to begin MC. 4. Willingness to sign up for and go to Retrovaille. 5. No contact with OM. 6. Show me how she is going to accomplish no contact with OM. 7. Some sort of transparency plan for both of us until trust is reestablished.
This is good. Suggestions:
1&2 need to be more clear. What is clear? 3. Only willingness or comittment? 4. Kind of odd to say. But almost too specific. Retrovaille I'm sure is great. But it's the commitment that matters. Another road to this may be acceptable. No? 5,6&7 May also need to be defined further. HOW? Specifics.
Thinking about this NOW, I believe, will help you if the time comes to deliver it.
Good luck man. You still have a great opportunity to save this thing.
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