Loving, Listening, and Letting Go..

[aeolianchaos]

I understand the feeling that if you are nice and friendly, you are letting her cake-eat. But if that's who you are, be you. I think it's a normal part of all of us, in this situation, to think that the other person should suffer like we do. But, if we *truly* care about the other person, why would we want them to suffer? It's the pain and fear in us lashing out.

I don't want her to suffer. I want her to be happy - but i want myself to be happy, too. I keep reacting to her and letting myself get unhappy when I really don't need to.

I know its mind-reading, but I don't think she is nearly as happy as she acts like she is. I think that deep down inside she rejects herself constantly. Total mind reading, but its based on everything I've observed and things she has said. Doesn't matter, though.

I appreciate you chiming in LP, I'm more than a little stressed about this whole thing tomorrow, and am still trying to figure out exactly how I'm going to handle it.