Possible WAW to Piecing? (Part 2)

[MHL]

Stupid. Should have been listening/validating from the get go.

Not stupid, you're just on a learning curve.......stop beating yourself up. You are looking at everything you are doing and saying as if you are directly impacting the outcome of your marriage.

Forget about your marriage......that is the best way to save it.

I am not trying to be cryptic but you have to detach from the idea that you may end up divorced.........I am not saying that it will happen or won't.

It is unknown........

The thing you have to KNOW is that YOUR life and YOUR happiness will go own no matter what.........you need to find YOUR life and YOUR happiness outside the marriage.

You are not happy becuase you are married.......you should be happy first.....then you are a "happy person" that is married.

See the difference???

Wondering if I should call or just show up?

What would you do for a friend???

IF you would call a friend then do it.

Everything is not a life or death decision.

and if she is upset that you called, fagitaboutit

Also - it's good I won't be home until later, but I plan to sleep in our bed and hope she does too! Guess I just assume that's the case, get in bed and see if she joins...OR if she gets in bed first, just get in too.

There is an expectation up there.

Expectations lead to disappointments.

Disappointments lead to hurt.

Hurt is pain.

Pain for you is not good because you do and say things that don't get you where you want to be......

sooooooooo

Drop the expectation.....

Hope this helps

Cheers