OK, Hubby is in MLC...but do I have to PAY for it?

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Tina,
I was in a similar situation, in some ways. Although my X worked reasonably hard, his position of choice was not financially lucrative. I basically handled all the bills and paid for some very nice luxuries for him, like membership to a health club. He also had a lot more spare time and laid around complaining about his miserable life.

When he left, he was astonished that I immediately canceled teh credit card. He was furious. Not my problem.

I started to treat myself. I hadn't bought new clothes for a long time. I bought jewelry, I bought stuff just for fun. I realized a big part of me was submerged and I didn't treat myself very well. I paid for babysitters so I could go out and have fun.

What if you took the money for your H's health club and announced you are doing something for YOU?

X needed to grow up and I realize that in some ways, I made things too easy for him.

At the moment, X is nearly bankrupt and I worry for him. The situation is very different now as his OW is long gone, but at the same time, his problems are not mine. What I hope for from him is some maturity and wisdom and the recognition that he is responsible for his own happiness. Somewhere along the line--I don't know how--I got assigned the Make X Happy project. It was basically a doomed project.