Pete, I just can't imagine finding a note like that. I was hoping (not that it would bring her back) that it was just a stupid, tragic accident. I don't know if the closure would have been any better or not.
I'm happy that you have a support system with you ATM. Lean on them, or any of us, anytime you need to.
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I ditto dbmod's post. We will continue to worry about you, because we care about you and your sons. But, it's good to know you are focused on what matters most, being there for your boys. Yes, they need you now more than ever. We are praying for your comfort, strength and peace. Above all, take care of you so you can take care your boys.
IDK what to make of the note, (with the text), and her earlier "happy" behavior at the bar
but I like the good parts.
Maybe that's what I"d take from it...I simply don't know.
Interesting about the diagnostic stuff in it. Guessing that's your take on it OR she said something about it??
SIGH...
Wish people would give medical science more of a chance w/mental illness.
The knowledge they gain in neuroscience doubles almost every two years.
Anyhow,
please get you & those boys some C, and Please keep us posted. You matter more than you know.
You wish your wife knew how much she mattered to you and the boys--
same goes for you and us.
(( ))
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ok, eulogy later, here is the note: please help me undertsand
dear peter
i need to try and explain that i have always loved you. i dont know why i do the crazy things i do or why i cant seem to lead a normal happy life. the doctor said i have borderline personality disorder or bpd. i really dont understand what that means/ how i got it. all i feel is depressed and sad
sorry interrupted, will post later.
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I don't know if this helps explain Pete's wife's 'happiness' before she took her life, but I have read that many people who take their own lives show happiness before they do it. Once they make up their mind to go through with it, they feel relief or euphoria that there will be an end to their pain.
I believe her note was very telling that she just couldn't understand why when she had such a wonderful life with Pete and their boys that she couldn't be happy.
Pete, this isn't your fault. She was in such emotional pain and couldn't understand why she felt like she did. I think she really thought it was the only way to keep from continuing to hurt you and the boys, and therefore herself.
I am totally confident that you will manage and emerge bigger and stronger for your boys.
God gives us enough grace in perfect measure for our individual trials, no more, no less, not one day too soon or one day too late.
We just have to count on it.
Blessings, Pic
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