Treading water - time and patience

[NYCPeter]

So MC session was earlier than originally planned.

It went well - primarily focussed on getting us to communicate better and validating what was being said. We went through different exercices and the MC asked us to work on these as homework.

We focused on one issue (Finances) that my wife felt I was not involved enough in, that I just put $$ into the account and expected her to work to that budget and didn't offer enough support. I validated what she was saying and understood why she felt that way.

The final exercise was to tell each other what we liked about each other, I listed several things I love about my wife and my final one was that "I loved her". Her responses were she loved my sense of humour, loved my loyalty, loved how i interact with my friends, love how I play with my girls. The MC then asked us both for one more, she said "I love Peter" - I was ecstatic.

Now the downside - we're driving home and my wife asked what I was thinking, I said I thought the session went well and that it would be useful for us. I also said - It was nice to hear that she loved me. W response - "Well I'm not sure about that one" - I was like "why did you say it, what's the point in going to MC if we're not going to be honest" - W response, "why do you think I've been going to IC, I'm trying to figure that out". The remainder of the 5 min drive was in silence. She's now taken D6 swimming.

Thoughts anyone?