Accept that h's family is not capable of being a source of any support to you or the kids, for now & the forseeable future.
See this as a net gain. It is reality.
They are biased against females, so your d would Not benefit from having that message in her life.
They are biased against your son b/c he's not blood related. So he benefits by not having that rejection in his face either.
They are cruel, miserable people.
Embrace this so called "loss".
Protect your children from further self inflicted pain, by Not encouraging them to reach out.
If your h (or his family) wants back into their lives
HE can take steps to make that happen. IT is the ONLY WAY and
YOU must accept that You have NO control over this OR their relationships.
Tell yourself the Serenity prayer at least once a day.
Analyze and Explain how filing for a LS or divorce,
could HELP/ Hurt your FINANCIAL situation...
(leaving aside, for a moment, other emotional issues or "giving up", etc) What steps does your L say you should take, to protect your interests and the kids?
I urge you to Avoid being a woman who lets her fears of angering her wayward spouse (and "losing" someone who is already out the door) prevent her from getting what her children are entitled to. They come first.
Not our fear or our pride or our ego. THE KIDS... Now, as for DBing... ask yourself if any of your prior approaches w/ your h
have yielded any lasting positive results.
IF NOT...then what would a 180 be for you? What are your 180s?
What are your GAL things?
AND finally, here is the KEY question you have to be able to answer AND
your h would have to know too.... How would marriage to YOU today, be better/different than before?
IF YOU have Not done the work on YOU, then what is the point of all this?
I only ask b/c it's KEY AND
b/c I only see you posting reactions to what HE has done to you and the kids.
There's no discussion of what your personal work or growth is, just a lot of victimhood and pain.
God knows he has hurt you and his kids. I get that. But this is a solution based approach to solving serious marriage problems.... So let's focus on what you can control and work on....YOU.
List some 180s and GAL that YOU are doing to improve YOUR life and the kids.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
