Possible WAW to Piecing? (Part 2)

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Don't feel good now, that's for sure!

Crap - BAD night last night.

Feels like the nail in the coffin W has been waiting for.

We were having a good night, hanging out talking W, MIL and me. Daughter was nearby in and out of the kitchen.

D is not into physical affection at all. Not a hugger / kisser for sure.

At some point during the conversation, I made a comment that my mom (who died 15 years ago) would never have taken 'no' for an answer and would have given her hugs and kisses all the time.

Apparently MIL took GREAT offense to this. She kept going on and on about all the things she has done for D and S. I honestly wasn't sure where it was coming from. Had NO CLUE it was connected to my comment.

40 mins later W and I are in bed and she tells me "You know, you REALLY pissed mom off with your comment." I was dumbfounded. I said I meant NOTHING at all by the comment, it was only a pleasant memory of how my mom was.

W kept on about how it was crappy, that I was trying to say my mom would have been better to the kids. HOLY CRAP!

I told W that I meant nothing of the sort and that I'm sorry they both took it that way, but that the problem was in their interpretation of what I said. I had no such intent behind the statement and the fact that they took it wrong doesn't make me a bad person.

The whole time W just keeps telling me to shut up and to 'stop shouting' - I was speaking a basic normal volume, which may be a little loud when lying in bed together, but far from shouting.

W just kept telling me to drop it. THEN she started laughing at me saying that I 'sound like a text book' and that everything I say is straight from therapy.

I honestly don't know if I can live with someone who WANTED me to go to therapy then RIDICULES me for trying to apply what I'm learning in therapy. How cruel is that?

I pushed the conversation too far - should have dropped it. W got up to go sleep in son's room as he had a sleepover with a friend. I made the bad move of following her, trying to continue the discussion. Then she doubled back to our room and started to shut the door to keep me out of our bedroom.

I grabbed the door before she could shut it - we both pushed against it for a second, then she let go and I accidentally slammed the door into the wall, making a small hole where the door lock hit.

Then she hit me once and scratched my arm (not too bad, but I took a picture later). After this I kind of 'got in her face' - not threatening her, but rather holding out my face as she was standing there with clenched fists and I said "Go ahead, hit me!"

Then D and MIL came out of their room to see what had happened. Not fun discussion ensued. W was telling not 100% accurate story. I only said I didn't want to be locked out of bedroom is why it happened.

I then told MIL I was sorry for how she took my comment - this was while W locked herself in our bedroom. After a while of discussion with MIL, W came out. Some highlights were MIL saying, "You can't control how she feels." I said, "I don't want to be a part-time parent." MIL said, "Well maybe she does." I just said "It's a damn shame." W said "What is?" I said the whole situation. W said "Yeah, that you didn't realize what you had!".

Discussion ended after 20 minutes or so I guess. W slept in son's bed since he was gone. She asked if I was going to sleep in son's bed and I said "No, I'm ok - it's fine, let's just go to bed." She wasn't having any of that, so she took son's bed. I have no intention of giving up the bedroom! I'm already completely locked out of her heart.

I still can't believe she would be so friggin' mean to basically make fun of me for 'sounding like a textbook'. Crap.

I know I got reactive - that screwed the whole situation up.

I feel like that's the end of it all. I guess I see soon enough.