I am super high drive too--and waited almost until married with ex H. I should have been at "level 5" and lived happily ever after according to the one poster....
not so much!lol.
I didn't sleep with the one guy after H filed and SO GLAD--he left without a word after knowing him 2 1/2 months! And saying he wanted to marry me!! Well, the fact that I had an increasingly ugly D on my hands may have played into that....
There's a new guy now--I am SO ATTRACTED to him. But luckily there are...complications (his ex is one of my best friends). He is fixing stuff that my perfectionistic/procrastinator ex H let go and this is almost better than dating...(get to see them in ALL kinds of situations) But that was the story on the OTHER guy (handy man)--so I am just saying...
Give it LOTS of time. I just don't have the mental energy to figure out "why they aren't into me" right now. If I was having sex--YIKES! I'd be very bummed when they figured out they don't want to continue the R for whatever reason.
And...there are LOTS of reasons now--they have kids, you have kids, they have an ex that they like/hate...ugh. Plus old friends/girlfriends coming out of the woodwork on facebook, twitter, etc.
And biologically guys like the chase. All the books on dating I've read basically tell you that you are RUINING THEIR FUN when you sleep with them too soon.
