What was your H's childhood like? I truly believe who we choose to marry all ties in with the family of origin.
Thank God we can change the dynamics by dealing with the baggage left from the FOO. We do that by recognizing those issues, making the connections and then setting about ways to change that within ourselves. That understanding was one of the gifts I received from my H's MLC.
I believe the MLCer doesn't have the ability to recognize those connections before or at the time of the MLC. They react to the external feelings because they do not have any idea that the real issues for why they're feeling the way they are, were there long before they ever met us.
