Tina, what i have posted was my view of the situation. My XH's is totally different. Don't forget that we are the evil one in this through their eyes. We are to blame for their life failure, we are to blame and they want us to pay,pay,PAY. Fog is really thick in their head. I heard and believed all of his accusations for a long time to the point of been hospitalised not once but twice for panic attacks. I had to take a good look at all of this and realized that ALOT of those accusations were totally made-up. I was percieved as someone i'm not. I had told him once that i wasn't surprised he didn't love me anymore because he couldn't even remember who i was. Deep down in his soul, he knows the real me but through his cycling, i get burried in the fog. I resurface here and there but until i'm in clear view all the time, all i get is hope, confusion and hurt. MLC is bad for everyone. No one has it easier than others, just different. A midlife transition is easier than a MLC but still is very painful for everyone involved. Changes has to occur and every facets of your life is analized inside and out. Time, time and more time but for now, PROTECT YOURSELF AND YOUR FAMILY. IT'S IMPERATIVE. He his already full of anger, he is irrational and unpredictable. TAKE CARE OF YOU, BE STRONG, PROTECT YOURSELF!
