I'll give you a hint: it goes something like "I don't want to break up my family, either, but nor am I going to subject us any longer to my husband's bad behavior. If I'm going to let him back this time, it will only be with some healthy boundaries in place."
Starsky
This speaks volumes to me!! thank you so much! what would be classed as healthy boundaries though?? does this mean things like him being transparent at first, only going out together, things like that???? [/quote]
I would start with him writing OW a no-contact letter (with you approving the content, and you mailing/delivering it, so that nothing is added or subtracted), full transparency, MCing with a C that has specific experience in dealing with infidelity, and your husband taking a full-panel STD test, with you getting a copy of the results.
