4evah'n'evah... awww maaan...

[Woodman]

You are in my thoughts and prayers today my friend. I, like you have gone through the feelings of " I don't care about the financials". It's part of the stage of denial. You need to push through that and make sure that you get the absolutely best deal that you can get for you and your children. Use your lawyer. Take his advice. Remember this is not his first rodeo.
My STBXW is also trying to get me to give away the store. She holds "taking it to the judge" over my head just like your W does. Believe me, you are a long way from the courtroom. There is still plenty of time and plenty of room for negoitiation. Where I live, most final agreements are reached in the anteroom of the courtroom, a half hour before scheduled divorce trial. Hang in there my friend and let us know how this day went for you.