Sounds a very similar situation to mine. And similar words as well coming from your W. I'm pretty new here, so as you can see on my posts I'm struggling with the whole situation and letting go too. It's hard to do when you still love someone so much and all you want is your life/wife back to what you had. I did all the wrong things over the last few months; begging, crying, ultimatums, texting, calling, getting friends/family involved, letters, gifts etc. You name it, I did it. Nothing has worked. I wish I had found this site a long time ago, I would have learnt to change my approach. I am now trying to just remove myself from the situation. I don't hold out much hope of reconciling, as she is so stubborn and thinks this is what's best for 'us', but who knows. I still see us for all the great things we had and love and fun, but she has an ability to block it all out. She can't divorce me for 6 months, so I figure I've got 6 mths to see what my future may be.
I'd suggest posting your story in the Newcomers section, there seems to be more traffic there.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
