Good for you, Tad. Though, I am surprised they let you postpone for that reason,
Ok, I am not known for 2 x 4's but I feel you need a little tap.
The texts - I would not have engaged with her and I certainly would not have explained anything.
When you try to tell them about the changes, they see right through it and get angry.
You need to really make the changes and be that person each day.
So, if you felt you had to respond, I would have said, not so sure I can do lunch. Have a nice night. And leave it at that.
And just so you know, after my xh screwed me every way possible in court, he then turned to me and said, do you want to have lunch? After he realized I was not going to, he proceeded to walk me to my car and hugged me when we left.
And that, Tad, is a glimpse inside the cuckoo that is their brain.
