Big update tonight. My W called me to talk about the separation paperwork (or did she? I will explain). She then asked what I "wanted to do" about the D stuff. I replied that I didn't really know where to begin with it and that I would ask someone at the court how to proceed. I was thinking, "oh, great, she's still pushing forward with the D." Then she said, "I think we should really talk about the idea of us getting back together." I thought, "huh?"
When I asked her what she meant, she said that she didn't see us working out because she was in love with OM but that there were a lot of great things about our R that she is having trouble "letting go of." I told her, "Look, why don't we just be separated for a while, see how that feels, and go from there?" She agreed with that. I couldn't help but think that she sounded relieved.
I see this as a HUGE step of progress. A few weeks ago, she was going on about how quickly she wanted to D me, and she's outright telling me that she's having doubts. Giving her space and time to think is clearly making a positive effect. I'm glad that I decided on that route very early on rather than later…
