I doubt he would ask - but thanks for those tips. I'd love to email and tell H myself that I'm glad we've had this time apart as I now see we needed it. Yes it has been painful but I've learnt a hell of a lot.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11