I have made all the 180s i can and be true to myself. The big ones , temper, impatience, housework, weight loss, I don't even have to think of them anymore, they just come naturally. I'm not one for going out all the time. When I get home from work, my wife goes off to the gym and I look after the kids... We (kids) do things together, I teach them to do chores, play games reading etc. I go to church on Sundays with them. I have a life. Not the life my W lives, nor do I want that life (bars, movies, concerts, parties). I'm past that stage of life. I do enjoy them from time to time, but not every day of every weekend.. I love doing things with my kids, but I will not have her turn this into a competition.
Now here is where I need some advice.
My wife is low in numbers of kids for the daycare. So, she is feeling the pressure to cover her expenses. I have offered to give her money in the past, buts she refuses. Now this Saturday, she is going out to get a labour job, to earn some money to cover her lost earnings. I want to offer her some money, but don't know if is should.
What should I do?
Is this a good opportunity for her to experience the loss (let her see how difficult work can really be. She has never had a difficult physical job before) that Sandi referred to? It would give her a taste of what she can expect living on her own. I have worked construction many years. I am well aware how tough work can be.
Is it a test from her to see if I am going to come to her aid?
If I were doing a 180, I should let her take those jobs. In the past I would have offered help.
Johnnie
Me 45 W 34 W.A.W. 3K. D11 S9 D6 M 12 y T 13 y Bomb drop 02/22/2011 2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011 Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011
