will have to be made clear very soon if you are to use the leverage you presently have, wisely.
I have said to him that I feel it is down to him to fix things/find a solution/proove he's telling the truth on several occasions already. Is that the right thing to say? not clear enough or too harsh do you think???
But remember, if you make his work back in, a "Climb Mt Everest" type of thing, he'll feel it's hopeless.
Yes, I can see what you're saying here - it is difficult to know how tough to be though and to be honest his way back in is like climbing Mt Everest the way I feel right now!! Although I understand you mean to not let him know that right?
Then "what's the point?" will settle in, he'll start to bolt and you will rush in & let all the boundaries go and the m will end or be lousy.
But letting him in without boundaries at the get go will also damage or end the m.
I have no idea what the boundaries are or should be - I really don't want to let him walk all over me again like he did when he came back after being a WAS - that has made me feel pretty powerless and to be honest worthless so I definitely don't want that but I am confused about all this boundaries stuff.
