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you could research it yourself, pay an IT consultant or go with a MAC!!

Bottom line is since i assume this is for personal use, how important is this? So what if you make a mistake buying the "wrong" one?

You'll have a new computer and voila, you're in business.

If it's for the business and he's the ONLY or by far the best/cheapest IT guy to ask, ask him. By phone.


OR bag that and ask him for a referral if you need an in person consult --and if you really truly need an expert and don't think you can decent advice at the store.

I have found the store people in computer places, usually, great.

THis isn't a biggie. It's more of an inconvenience.


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M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
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X = "ALASKA 2.0"
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It's for my business. I've asked a few friends, but I really value my husband's opinion on stuff like this. He knows what I need. I know whatever I get I'll be happy with but I really just want to ask him for his opinion. But I know I can't.

Having a down day. Got my first child support payment from him. I try to let go but I love him so much and him leaving came as such a huge shock that I struggle so much everyday with his sudden disappearance from my life.


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Country_Song yes it is an excuse for contact. I want to talk to him about something other then our kids. He's happy to be my friend and everytime he asks me something personal I ignore it. I've kept everything completely business lik with him and I'm struggling.


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give him the space he seems to want...

Pursuit has not worked thus far, right?

Okay then


M: 57 H: 60
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S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
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I know I know!

I won't ask. I'll actually ask his boss - who is my SIL's BF. I get on well with my SIL and I believe that her BF is as confused as I am over what H did/is doing.


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good...

but Avoid discussing your h or m with your sil's bf...

IF HE brings it up & or asks if you are divorcing,

you say something like "who knows? BUT I sure hope not b/c we've been together a long time and have built a family..."

and somehow insert that "Though painful, in some ways it's been a great experience, b/c I feel like I see things very differently now..."


demonstrate your changes...


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
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I doubt he would ask - but thanks for those tips. I'd love to email and tell H myself that I'm glad we've had this time apart as I now see we needed it. Yes it has been painful but I've learnt a hell of a lot.


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I doubt he would ask - but thanks for those tips. I'd love to email and tell H myself that I'm glad we've had this time apart as I now see we needed it. Yes it has been painful but I've learnt a hell of a lot.


He will see it when the time is right.

Let go. ^^^ This feeling. While normal. Is a form of trying to control and push your desire on someone else. We find here. Doesn't work.

Good luck


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After a really crappy morning where I nearly threw an old pair of jeans on instead of my new look a client just told me how hot I look! I'm wearing knee high boots, a knee length skirt, new blouse and jacket. So glad I made the effort to continue with my 180 instead of falling back into old habits.


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Trying to build up the motivation to make a lasagna for dinner. Was H's (and the kids) favourite meal. I haven't made one since he left. I still don't know if I can do it.


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