She said to me once, "I wish (name) would have tried harder".
Have you ever asked her to expound on what her H could have tried? You see, this is a woman who left her H for OM, and now she finds herself just as unhappy as she was with her H. She is wanting him to take responsibility for her happiness.
I even read a couple of posts from LBH's who would ask if his WAW really wanted him to fight harder for her to stay with him. My answer? NO!! She doesn't want to be with him and that's why she's leaving! The harder she sees him fighter to keep her from leaving....the worse she feels toward him.
If you pull in.....she pulls away. I think you've experienced that several times.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
