GF,

You didn't break your H and you can't fix him.

Unfortunately, it's not uncommon for a MLCer to neglect their children. You can't fix this for him or you kids. I know how much this hurts your heart. At some point you may see him try to reconnect with the children. All you can do is pray that he does, and that your children are receptive to it. In the mean time, continue to be their rock

Can I ask what your H should be taking medication for?

Hang in there GF. Better days are coming.