Last night everything went fine. W got home late with the kids, who were all thrilled to see me and wanted to tell me everything about the whole trip. W just went to bed early, as she was exhausted. No particularly great interactions, but no anger or resentment, and no particularly "cold" reception, either.
Of course, you are right - I need to accept that I will not do everything perfectly. IC always says I lack patience for change to happen, want everything better NOW.
Asperger's does contribute to the problem, but maybe not in the way that you think. We usually tend to be very black-and-white thinkers, expecting perfection and rejecting anything short of it. It takes a lot of effort to even imagine that someone else could accept us when we are short of what we feel we should be. Anger looks like rejection, and it is hard to think beyond the moment, to know that anger is just a passing feeling, and doesn't mean the "end."
Meditation - will need to set aside some time for that, but it's a good idea. So is writing down thoughts, once I can catch myself thinking them. But, of course, that is also some of what I do here. I have always said, I journal better on this list than anywhere else.
Thanks for your response. As always, best to you, too.
Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?
