WAW, and a bisexual open marriage part 4

[25yearsmlc]

this^^^^ rings so true

"she has her own issues"...we KNOW...

"BUT"...she won't work on them. Gee, I bet sex with others will fix her temper tantrums

and the weirdly abusive things she does to you....AND

somehow,

will fix the fact that you put up with it.

GB

at some level down deep....you know you deserve better,

but you really don't know how to get better treatment.

YOU diagnosed your w as being bi-polar and pretty far off the wall, and then

you pretended you don't think all those things. How healthy is THAT?

Then you seemed to blame ALL women or marriage in general,

for what's simply an abusive co-dependent dynamic in an unhealthy marriage.


Don't blame marriage

b/c you feel like you are failing at it;

or you're desparately trying to convince yourself this isn't a bad marriage;

in need of professional help

just a "different, cooler one"...

it's not a cooler marriage.

It's a sad deseparate one with 2 people who both need to grow up and get help.

Be the healthier one; "the leader", and get yourself some c with or without her.

My hunch is that if you go to C, she will want to go at some point b/c she'll

feel "threatened" and insecure, again...

If she threatens to leave you, I guess it must be Thursday...